I’m sure for most of you, as soon as you read that title your mind went to “oh I wonder what happened to her” or “somethings wrong wrong with her mentally” or “she’s got issues”, instead of saying, “I’m glad she decided to ask for help” or “she’s so strong for going.” And you see, that’s the problem. Therapy has this unfortunate stigma where as soon as someone says “I go to Therapy” you immediately think that person has issues or there’s something wrong with them. That they’re weak and can’t handle life on their own. Or that it’s a waste of money when you can simply call up a friend or your parents to talk about things you’re lowkey struggling with.
And this is why so many people are scared to tell someone that they’re struggling, so instead they suppress their feelings and emotions. This is why people are scared to go to someone, because of the judgement they might get from other people.
If 2021 did anything at all, it’s that it finally shed a light on how positive your therapy experience can be. And that you don’t need to be going through mental health issues or really anything at all to wanna go. Therapy gives you the ability to feel validated and talk to someone who you, (down the road), can consider a great friend. And let’s not forget that Therapy can literally save someones life, and people should always know there’s someone out there wanting to support them.
It was back in 2017, I was a junior in college, when I *somewhat* realized I needed to talk to someone. College was simply getting the best of me and, quite frankly, I felt like I was losing myself. And even though I had no motivation to go, I went. And even though I only went for a couple months – it changed my life. It gave me a sense of power over where I wanted to direct my life, what was serving me and what was not, how to identify triggers and learn how to cope with all of life’s stressors.
Life is fucking hard. Period. And sometimes we need that unbiased person in our corner rooting us on and telling us we can do it.
After that I hadn’t returned to therapy until 4 years later, this past September of 2021. This time, I WANTED to go. I was having panic attacks while I was driving, while I’d be out to eat or while watching TV in the comfort of my own home. Something wasn’t right and I knew it wasn’t fair to continuously dump it on friends and family. We’re the issues I was facing ground-breaking? Not entirely as so many people deal with severe anxiety. But it was enough to know I was losing myself again and was ready to gain a sense of control back.
I’ve been going for over 3 months and I rarely have a panic attacks anymore (aside from coffee anxiety, lol). I feel so in control that I’ve seen massive personal growth both in my personal and business life. I’m not sure if I would have been able to continue with my website design business if it weren’t for my weekly therapy sessions. I learned how to incorporate more self care as I’m:
And although you’d read those and think they’re “so easy to implement by yourself”, I simply wasn’t capable nor realized the lack of boundary setting and self care I was choose to let in.
So with all of that being said, whether you’re struggling severely or feeling lost/out of control in your life OR don’t have anything going on at all, therapy will always be available to support you and help you find your best self.